Both work a 40-hour week, plus household chores and hobbies – some couples hardly see each other during the week. The weekend then becomes even more important: two days when there is finally time for each other. But are you really using this time well?

1. Not being available and online all the time

The red wine is open, there is delicious pasta – and both of them are on their cell phones.
“It’s just a quick message,” “I have to answer it quickly,” “It can’t wait until tomorrow.” This doesn’t look like a good time together. The cell phone is to blame.

Spend conscious time together and banish distractions. The happiest couples may not always spend a lot of time together – but when they do, they do it right.

2. Together, but not with each other

Talking to colleagues, the janitor or the bank – you can hardly avoid it during the week. It’s understandable that everyone is on the weekend sometimes need “me time”.
It’s just stupid: you actually want to spend more time with your partner.

A trick from raising children helps here: “Parallel Play”. You are together, but everyone does their own thing. She wants to read? He wants to gamble? Perfect. Sit on the couch together – and do both at the same time. In this way, each person takes care of themselves without distancing themselves from the other.

3. Create rituals

The world is unstable and is constantly throwing something new at us. Relationships, on the other hand, should be an anchor – a place for stability and security.

Rituals help enormously. Walk in the door on Friday and your favorite board game is already there. Have breakfast together on Sunday morning. Such rituals structure life and relationships – they hardly require any energy and provide orientation. You come back to what really matters.

The problem: On the weekend, everything that was left behind during the week is often packed away. Before you know it, it’s Sunday evening – without any togetherness.

Scheduling a set time to dedicate yourself to one another can help break down mental barriers and switch off more easily.

In everyday life we ​​wear masks and play roles. But in a relationship you should be allowed to let yourself go – safe and secure. So: play with each other. Don’t take yourself too seriously.

How does that work? There is no “right” way. Do what feels good. Most of the time, everyone knows what you enjoy – you just have to remember it.